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Holiday Shopping Time---20 Percent Savings!

No, we don't have toys, electronics, or other traditional holiday gifts, but the Disability is Natural Online Store does have a variety of wonderful items you won't find anywhere else, and many feature a 20 percent savings for a limited time!

The Disability is Natural book is a great how-to manual, full of positive, proactive strategies, for parents, teachers, and anyone else who cares about children with disabilities. Regular price $30.00; sale price $24.00!

The Disability is Natural Video/DVD is also on sale: Video regular price $20.00; sale price $16.00. DVD regular price $25.00; sale price $20.00.

Adult-sized sweatshirts or the canvas tote---each is regularly priced at $20.00; sale price for each is $16.00, available in your choice of 25 different bright, colorful designs!

Looking for stocking stuffers or small, but thoughtful, gifts for teachers, co-workers, or others on your list? The sturdy, laminated, over-sized bookmarks (choose from 26 designs) fill the bill --- $1.00 each or 10 for $8.00. The Presume Competence wristband ($3.00) or badges ($2.00), note cards (set of 10 cards for $6.00), sticker sheets ($3.00) or bumper stickers ($3.00), all available in your choice of bright, colorful designs, are also possibilities!

While you're at the Disability is Natural Online Store, check out the People First Language poster, the Disability is Natural Video/DVD companion poster, and the 25 other posters can create positive change in schools, offices, and homes!

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Featured Article: The Lessons of Segregation

Copyright 2006, Kathie Snow, www.disabilityisnatural.com

Gina has a Master's degree, lives in her own home, and has enjoyed moving up the corporate ladder in a variety of professional positions. When she was a young child, her parents followed conventional wisdom and placed Gina in a residential “crippled children’s” school. She only saw her family once a month, and she grew up surrounded by children with orthopedic disabilities, along with therapists, special educators, and other professionals. She ultimately became accustomed to this "placement"---to the point that this sheltered, artificial setting seemed the norm, and life in the real world seemed strange. This particular school had high expectations for its students, so Gina received an academic education which enabled her to move on to college.

Outwardly successful, 42-year-old Gina struggles daily with the demons of segregation. Spending her formative years (ages 5-18) in a special, segregated environment caused deep wounds that have never healed, and they’re reopened regularly. When faced with any difficulties at work or with family, Gina automatically believes she's at fault, incompetent, and unworthy; and she feels she doesn't belong. Being "sent away" by her parents taught her that she didn't belong---because of her disability, she wasn’t "good enough." As an adult, this deeply-rooted emotional pain is almost too much to bear, and has created more difficulties for Gina than her disability. She's currently in counseling, hoping to exorcise the demons that haunt her daily.

Brad's life has been different, and he's learned other lessons from segregation. He grew up at home with his family, but he never attended the same schools as his brother and sister. At the age of three, he was put on the Special Ed bus for the 45-minute ride to the Special Ed Preschool. During public school years, he never knew what grade he was in---a common occurrence when children with disabilities of various ages are grouped in the same special ed ungraded classroom. Unlike children without disabilities who are exposed to greater learning opportunities and responsibilities as they move up the "grade ladder," Brad's educational and social growth were almost static. Little was expected of him throughout his childhood by his parents or the special ed teachers. No one ever talked to him about his future and his potential. At age 22, he aged out of special ed services and left the school system with a "certificate of attendance" instead of a diploma. While his brother and sister moved on to college and jobs, Brad went from the segregation in public school to segregation in a group home, day programs, and sheltered workshops.

Brad's service coordinator has tried to "place" Brad in a real job in the community, but all attempts have failed. Like Gina, Brad learned some powerful lessons from segregation. He, too, learned that he didn't belong in the real world. But in his case, this lesson is manifested in Brad's belief that he doesn't have to work or assume any responsibilities for himself---he’s learned to be helpless. If little or nothing has been expected from him his entire life, why should things change now?

Delia, a special ed teacher, has recognized the benefits of inclusive education and is working to move her sixth grade students out of her segregated classroom and into general ed classrooms. But the general ed teachers complain that these students "don't know how to behave"---they don't know how to take turns, raise their hands and wait to be called on, use their "indoor" voices, and other ordinary student behaviors most children learn in kindergarten. The general ed teachers feel this situation is the result of the students' disabilities.

But Delia sees a different picture---she recognizes that her students learned many lessons from being in elementary school special ed rooms. In those multi-age, segregated classrooms, it was okay that 10-year-olds acted like 5-year-olds; in a class of ten students with three adults, "hand-raising" opportunities were limited or non-existent; the way to get attention was to have the loudest voice; and since most of the students were working on different things, they didn't learn how to wait and take turns! These students never learned the ordinary behaviors and skills expected of other students. Now, they---not those who allowed this miscarriage of education to occur---are paying the price.

Chief Justice Earl Warren wrote that segregation "generates a feeling of inferiority...that may affect [people's] hearts and minds in a way unlikely ever to be undone..."

Delia recognizes that the place to learn these real-life skills is the real-life environment of a general ed classroom. But she expresses valid concerns that the general ed teachers (even with Delia's assistance) won't take the time or make the effort to help these students learn how to succeed in the real world. If this occurs, back into a segregated setting they'll go. So when will they learn? Who will take the time and make the effort? If no one does, these young people will be shipped back to segregated special ed classrooms, where the lessons of segregation will be reinforced. As adults, they will not be prepared for life in the real world, but only for a life of segregation in congregate living quarters and sheltered work/activity programs.

How can we continue to segregate children and adults with disabilities, pushing them to the margins of society and setting them up for failure? The landmark 1954 U.S. Supreme Court decision in Brown v. Board of Education outlawed "separate but equal," and Chief Justice Earl Warren wrote that segregation "generates a feeling of inferiority...that may affect [people's] hearts and minds in a way unlikely ever to be undone...Separate educational facilities are inherently unequal." What’s so hard to understand about this?

A variety of idealogies are used to justify the segregation of children and adults with disabilities. But none hold up under scrutiny.

Children with disabilities are placed in special ed classrooms because it's believed they need the specialized expertise and extra attention that can only be provided in the special ed room. But there's no magic in such a classroom. We make children go to "that room" not because it's best for them, but because it's easier on the staff! It's more convenient, educators believe, to put the human resources (special ed teachers, paras, therapists, etc.) in one place and make the students come to them, rather than take the services and supports to students in general ed classrooms. It's also more convenient, of course, from the perspective of the general ed teachers: when "those kids" are in the special classrooms, the general ed teachers don't have to mess with them! Everyone "wins" (everyone except the students, of course).

Some educators---and some parents---have looked into their mythical crystal balls and prophesied that students with disabilities will never be able to work, so why bother with an academic education? Their "educated" minds have missed the more important prophecy---the self-fulfilling prophecy that if students are not educated, they won't be in a position to achieve gainful employment. Duh---this isn't rocket science!

But there are schools where educators include all students in general ed classrooms, where general and special ed teachers work side-by-side, ensuring all students learn and belong. These educators have recognized the dangers of segregation and the benefits of inclusion, and they do what it takes to make it work.

Regarding adults, current SSI/Medicaid policies are biased toward segregated settings, and many service providers believe people with disabilities are unable to succeed in anything other than segregated environments---like ordinary homes or apartments, real jobs in the community, etc. Yet there are people with disabilities---sometimes significant disabilities---who are living in their own places and working at real jobs. In some cases, this has been accomplished via a provider agency that uses waivers and/or pushes the envelope in other ways. And there are also men and women who are achieving these milestones with the natural support of family, friends, and co-workers, instead of the system.

Funding is often the rationale for segregation: inclusion, many believe, costs more. But again, real-world practice in schools and other settings explodes this myth. My children's inclusive elementary school received no additional money; existing funds were reallocated. My 19-year-old son with a disability is included at home and in the community college with natural (and free) support from family, friends, fellow students, and teachers. He doesn't want special help from voc-rehab or other services which would use taxpaper dollars!

The Supreme Court outlawed segregation in 1954, recognizing the harm it causes. Others have seen or experienced its dangers first-hand. How can we disregard these dangers, and allow convenience, prejudice, and/or some other rationale to justify the incarceration of children and adults with disabilities in artificial and unequal segregated environments? Is there any other group of individuals—except for convicted criminals—for which segregation is justified in 21st century America?

Where are our values, ethics, and morals? How can we look into the face of a person with a disability and tell him he doesn't belong, and that a characteristic we call a disability is a valid justification for segregation?

If we support the segregation of people with disabilities, we must also bear the responsibility for the consequences of our actions: children and adults whose hearts and minds are scarred by feelings of inferiority and who are ill-prepared for life as successful citizens in our society. If we do not support segregation, when will we turn our righteous indignation into action?

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Copyright 2006 Kathie Snow, www.disabilityisnatural.com. If you would like the handout version (PDF) of this article, click here. You may share and/or distribute this E-Newsletter or the PDF version of this article (in their entirety and unedited) to other individuals and list serves (non-commercial use only). As a courtesy, please let me know how/when you use it - kathie@disabilityisnatural.com. Do not violate copyright laws---request permission before republishing this article in newsletters, on websites, in chat rooms, etc.

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Revolutionary Common Sense Articles

A variety of insightful, thought-provoking articles are available at the Revolutionary Common Sense Library at disabilityisnatural.com. With the holiday season upon us, two of the articles are especially timely. Read them online and/or download the PDF versions to share with others---and enjoy!

A Time for Thanks - At Thanksgiving time, I'm thankful for the bountiful efforts many make to ensure children and adults with disabilities and their families are living the lives of their dreams. What are you thankful for?

Meaningful Gift-Giving - It's the time of the year when we ponder what gifts to give. Check out these no-cost gift ideas which can provide meaningful, life-long benefits.

Beyond "Two-Dimensional" Thinking - Yes/No, Right/Wrong, Either/Or, and other forms of two-dimensional thinking can limit our creativity, which can, in turn, limit opportunities for children and adults with disabilities. The suggestions in this article can help you S-T-R-E-T-C-H your mind and change lives at the same time!

Activity-Based Goals = Success - Many goals written for students who receive special ed services seem to be written more for the benefit of educators and therapists than the students! When this occurs, is it any wonder when the goals are not achieved? Activity-based goals are the solution!

What's a "Behavior"? - Who among us hasn't exhibited "challenging behavior" at one time or another? (Ready to make a list?) But for individuals with disabilities, we've adopted new (and not helpful) language and perceptions about behavior. Let's take a step back and examine what's really happening!

Benevolent Services, Dangerous Messages - The human services system---from early childhood to voc-rehab and everything in between---offers a variety of benevolent services. But these same services can also carry dangerous messages for children and adults with disabilities and their families.

What Approach Should I Take for My Child with Autism? - Dee Blose, a savvy parent and leader, shares her extraordinary wisdom about raising a successful child who happens to have autism. This is a must-read for parents, teachers, and others who care about children and adults with autism and related diagnoses.

Home, Sweet Home and Other Welcoming Environments - What does it take to make a one's home a castle when disability is involved? It's easier than you think, and so very, very important!

The Lost Art of Manners - Most of us probably try to always have good manners, but somehow, many of us have lost our manners when it comes to talking about and interacting with people with disabilities. It's time to renew this lost art!

Goals: Meaningful and Relevant or Garbage? - Goals, goals, goals---we're fanatics about goals! But are we really writing goals that are relevant and meaningful to a child or adult with a disability? Expand your thinking about goals with the suggestions in this article.

And don't forget to check out the new article for children, "Same and Different: Respect for All." It's a two-page document which parents, teachers, and others can use with children, and it's accompanied by ideas and suggestions to facilitate interactive discussions. Click here to download the article. You can also download the article from the bottom of the People First Language page. I'd love to hear your thoughts about the article, and I thank you for helping children learn new ways of thinking!

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Good News to Share

• David Gayes is a young man who's going places and making a difference! Check out his blog --- http://growingupwithadisability.blogspot.com --- and learn from his experiences and perspectives!

• The Minnesota Governor's Council on Developmental Disabilities is celebrating its 35th anniversary, and has launched Parallels in Time II (www.mnddc.org/parallels2/index.htm), an extraordinary resource for parents, people with disabilities, educators, service providers, and anyone else who is interested in disability issues. Major topics like "A Place to Call Home," "A Place to Learn," and "Real Work" provide in-depth enlightenment on history and best practices today.Take the time to visit and prepare to be amazed!

• Reader's Digest (www.rd.com) magazine has long been a staple in our home. I don't always agree with all the articles (those focused on people with disabilities can sometimes be pity-laden), but still, each issue features a wide variety of stories and helpful information. The large-print edition comes to our mailbox every month, which enables my son, Benjamin, to enjoy the jokes and his other favorite sections (and I like the large print, too---I can read with my glasses off!). Is there someone in your family or sphere of influence who would benefit from a large-print digest of current events, interesting stories, and funny jokes?

• I'll be presenting in Virginia, Iowa, Missouri, California, and other states in the coming months---visit the Presentations page for more details (and check back often for new dates/events that are added). Let me know (kathie@disabilityisnatural.com) if you're interesting in sponsoring my presentations in your neck of the woods!

• And at this time of elections and interest in our government, ponder this quote from Howard Zinn, author of A People's History of the United States: "In the course of human history, governments have never been dependable in taking care of the needs of people. After all, governments are not set up for that purpose. They're set up to serve certain interests, and those are not the interests of the people. The government is not our friend."

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And thanks for all you do to create an inclusive society where everyone belongs!