So many of our actions touch others, are “teachable moments,” and/or have the potential to create change—positive or negative. Sadly, I hear from people with disabilities and families about the actions of professionals that result in negative outcomes—and the legacy of the professionals is correspondingly negative. The reverse can also be true: in their relationships with others, people with disabilities/families can leave a negative legacy in their wake.
[This article uses a situation facing my son (see the box on the right) to demonstrate that feelings can be a poor foundation for making rational decisions.]
What outcomes do we really want: to feel good, to be right, to exert power, to retaliate, or what? If we focus on win/win outcomes, we can ensure greater success for all, and we’ll also be creating a positive legacy that will live on long after we’re no longer here. What will be your legacy? Click here to continue (and find out who Benjamin wanted to cuss out and why)!
I asked Benjamin what he thought he should do about this. (Whose problem was this: his or mine?) Benjamin’s response was, "I’m gonna’ call ’em and cuss ’em out!"
New Ways of Thinking and Revolutionary Common Sense